Is a Parenting Marriage Right

for Your Family?

Take the Quiz Below and Find Out

(Write your answers on a sheet of paper)

  1. Have you and your spouse been stuck in the Marital Indecision Cycle (unsure whether to stay or go) for more than two years?    Yes  (2) No (1)

  2. Do you and your spouse share the same goals for your kids’ futures? Yes  (2) No (1)     

  3. Do you and your spouse have similar parenting styles (i.e. firm but fair, very strict, very lenient)? Yes  (2) No (1)

  4. Do you work together so your kids can’t easily split you & your spouse, or have you worked against each other? A common example is when one of you says no, so your child goes to the other parent who will say yes.  Yes  (2) No (1)

  5. Are you fairly honest and direct with your kids? Yes  (2) No (1)

  6. Would you be willing to take a parenting class together or get professional help if you hit an impasse in your coparenting? Yes  (2) No (1)

  7. Do you and your spouse respect each other? Yes  (2) No (1)

  8. Do you and your spouse have a general kindness toward each other? Yes  (2) No (1)

  9. Do you and your spouse have good communication? Yes  (2) No (1)

  10. Do you and your spouse have an ability to reciprocate the obligations of parenting and running the household? (this includes scheduling, giving each other coverage so you both take breaks, dealing with finances, homework, etc.) Yes  (2) No (1)

  11. Have you both (or can you) accepted that the marriage as you knew it is over? Yes  (2) No (1)

  12. Are you willing to ask for help to set up your Parenting Marriage? Yes  (2) No (1)

  13. Do you have a basic trust for your spouse as a co-parent? Yes  (2) No (1)

  14. Do you negotiate and compromise well? Yes  (2) No (1)

  15. Can you live with an “outside-the-box “type of marriage? Yes  (2) No (1)

  16. Can you allow your spouse to live a completely separate life when s/he is away from you and the kids? Yes  (2) No (1)

  17. Can you handle it if friends and family don’t support your choice? Yes  (2) No (1)

  18. Can you create a plan to live in an unconventional way? Yes  (2) No (1)

  19. Are you and your spouse emotionally mature (you are in touch with what you’re feeling at any given time and you know how to express your emotions with one another)? Yes  (2) No (1)

  20. Are you ready to try something different? Yes  (2) No (1)


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TOTAL POINTS

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Results

0-25 Points – You are not an ideal candidate for a parenting marriage. A parenting marriage requires that you and your partner are on the same page. Communication must be open between you two and you must have the same goals in mind. Please contact Susan to find out how you can move towards preparing your marriage for this transition.

26-40 Points – You are a good candidate for a parenting marriage. Your marriage communication is open. You and your partner agree that your marriage for love is over and you’re ready to move forward with creating the best environment for your children. Contact Susan today to discuss your results further and find out exactly how to implement a Parenting Marriage.